One of the biggest setbacks I had starting off as a writing was the internet.
No, not being distracted by the internet. I was what I seen on there that left me a confused and jumbled mess, thinking that maybe I wasn’t cut out for this.
Funny thing is, it wasn’t even the advise on the internet that did this to me. I found some advise very helpful and some not so helpful which I disregarded. So what exactly was it that threw me off?
Well to be perfectly honest, it was my own naivety coupled with my insecurity. I was new and unsure of myself. When I got on the internet I was, in a sense, searching for myself. What was I suppose to do? How was I to live out my dreams?
In doing this, I ended up making one of the biggest mistakes anyone in the industry of creativity can do.
I tried to fit in.
Don’t get me wrong, you don’t always need to be a black sheep standing on the outside of the herd. In fact, most times you’ll find you have more in common with people than you think. But what I did was I tried to become something I wasn’t, because I thought the only way I could accomplish my goals and fulfill my dreams was to fit into the mold I seen on the World Wide Web.
Generalizations can be tricky. On one hand, you feel irritated by the stereotypes being put on you and on the other hand, sometimes generalizations are true. When you become apart of a certain group (whether it be politics, religion, sports, etc) you tend to find there really are certain characteristics that they display and that is the reason you probably are attracted to them. When you try to assimilate to a certain sect, you generally look for people who think or feel like you do. And that’s okay.
But sometimes group think isn’t always helpful. And you start to feel like you are being pushed out when you disagree or attempt to experiment with other methods. So naturally, you cast aside your own feelings about how something should be and just go with the flow.
Or at least, that’s what I did.
Lucky this didn’t go on for very long. I realized rather quickly that I didn’t have to distort who I was in order to do what I loved. Yes, sacrifice and compromise are always things that you will have to do to get ahead in any aspect of life, but when it comes to the core of who you are you have to set your boundaries.
I came to find that anyone who tries to take your art and turn it into something they prefer is a plagiarist, pure and simple. They will take the hard work you put into something and then revise it completely to their own liking without them having to actually put in the effort it takes to make their own creation.
Stay away from those people. They will do nothing but confuse you and drag you down.
A helpful critique will point out the areas that can be improved, but will also reaffirm the areas that you did well in. It will feel more like building up rather than tearing down. Yes, it will sting (it always stings) but it shouldn’t have you wondering if you should switch careers
You probably heard people say that you should become the best you that you can be. And this is really the reason you’re here. You strive to be the best and only version of yourself that is possible. Don’t be afraid to be apart of something, but always be ready to stand out when you need to. We’re all different and we’re all going to have at least one trait that makes us different from our group.
But see those are our strengths. Those difference is what will make you all see the world vibrantly. Let you be you and them be them. We’ll all appreciate it in the end.