Top 5 Things That Drives (most) Writers Insane

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When you think of a writer, you probably picture a frazzled woman sitting in a coffee shop typing away at her computer or a reclusive man who glares at everyone on the rare occasions he steps out of his house.

Obviously these are extreme stereotypes. There are plenty of writers who are sociable, extroverted characters. We are people too, with a plethora of personalities. So while I try not to generalize every group, I do find that there are certain interests and likes that many of us have in common.

With that said, there is also a few things that collectively most of us find obnoxious if not just absolutely detestable

1: When people ask if you’d make them a character in your story

The reason we find this annoying isn’t necessarily because we hate you nor because we think it makes you sound like a narcissist (although it kinda does) but because our story plots have to match the characters and our characters have to work with the plot. If we have to make a character based off everyone we knew/were friends with, we’d have an entire book filled with useless characters (no offense to you).

2: When people compare you to J. K. Rowling

This is true especially for authors in the sci-fi/fantasy genre. Now sometimes it’s flattering, but most times we writers aren’t trying to be the next J. K. Rowling. We’re happy letting her do her and us do us. Also, quick note: Rowling is not the only successful author out there. Just saying.

3: When you forget to save and the power goes out

Having to rewrite the same chapter over again is always frustrating. And it seldom is as good the next time you write it. Even more irritating and after you rewrite the entire thing plus more, you find out it actually did save and that you just wasted three hours of your life for no reason.

4: When you tell people you’re a writer and they say they’re also writers, but then you find out they only write fan-fiction

I don’t mean to be rude. If that’s what you like to do then go for it. But I’m just not sure if you’re an actual “writer” if you’re stealing other people’s ideas and turning them into your own. It’s even worse when these people insist you read their work and give them a review.

5: Getting a super cool idea for a dialogue or a plot twist, not writing down, and forgetting it completely

You remember the idea was good and you remember that it would have helped advance your plot. You recall where you were when you came up with it, you recall what you had for lunch that day and that one movie you watched one time at your cousin’s house when you were six but you have no clue what the really, really cool idea was. You tell yourself that next time you get an idea like that you will write it down… and then you don’t. And then it happens all over again.

Writing In Color Using Black and White Thinking

Imagination vs Reasoning

Fantasy vs Reality

Finding a balance between all these things can be tricky but key when writing. On one hand, if you’re in the business of writing fiction it’s obvious that not everything you write will be “reality” and one the other, you don’t want to be so unrealistic the story looses the ability to be relatable.

Unfortunately there is no one way or another to keep this balance as it all depends on what sort of story you’re creating. For me, creating a fantasy world filled with magic meas that sometimes the laws of physics can be defied, so how do I go off making the story somewhat realistic when it clearly is not anything close to our current reality?

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First, you have to create your own reality. Example, if you have a world filled with magic, I found the best stories make the limitations of that magic clear so everyone knows not just what can be done but what can not. The reader will understand these new rules in this new realm and adapt. When drawn into the story, they will adhere to the new standards of “reality”, thinking through that premise. As a writer then you have to make sure you keep everything in the bounds of that new reality. You can’t go off breaking your own rules or else you end up with a situations that fluctuate between our “real world reality” and your “imaginative reality”.

Keep things consistent. Not predictable, but consistent.

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Now none of us can actually say we’ve ever slain a dragon or thrown a ring into a volcano and saved the world. One might look at this and wonder what could be relatable about those stories. Think to one of your favorite books and tell me, what is it you found so compelling about it? And then tell me how you think it mirrors your own life. Chances are you will find some similarities within the characters of that story rather than the story itself.

If there is one thing that you can’t change no matter how much magic you place inside a realm it’s human nature. Characters who are human will act like human beings do. Their emotions and expressions and attitudes should continue to reflect the state of current and past human nature. This is what will make the story relatable. Seeing failure. Seeing emotion. Seeing strength. Those are the traits we look for. I don’t recommend taking that out of a story. Here is probably where you want to keep within the bounds of reality the most as it’s what’s going to make the reader fall in love with your characters.

Unrealistic characters is problem one of the number one complaints I hear from readers. Mary Sue characters are one of the most hated types in all of writing history as not only are they unrealistic but they make the other characters around them seem unrealistic as well. What I find helps me the most is reading up on history, even if your story is set in an alternative universe. It can still help you understand the nature of humankind and thus make your story not only more informative and entertaining but it gives the readers a sense of familiarity within a strange new world.

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Eventually you will start to get a feel for it. Once you begin establishing limitations and strengths your “reality” will start to make sense and thus find consistency. People like to be surprised, but they don’t enjoy being confused so be sure the boundaries are set and the readers understand the rules. Once that is set then you are free to play around with your imagination as much as you want.

Fantasy is hardly an escape from reality. It’s a way of understanding it

Lloyd Alexander