Six Ways To Actually Accomplish Your Goals When You Just Don’t Have the Motivation

Personal goals are important and should be practiced more than just at the beginning of the year. But let’s be honest, like every New Years resolution we all have trouble achieving accomplishment.

1: Keep your goals simple and realistic

The problem many people have is that they are overachievers. You feel a spurt of inspiration and you feel like you can climb Everest, pay off your student loans, raise a family, start a law firm, and break the record for the how many push-ups one can do- all in one day.

The way I see it is that flow of inspiration you feel now, that’s not for you to use in one day. It might be all the inspiration you get until you accomplish your goal, so it has to last you however long that might take. Don’t waste it all by giving yourself a thousand things you want to do, instead, make one or two goals every six months and keep them simple. Whether it’s that you’re going to run an extra mile every day or work a little harder on a project, it’s important you know your limits.

2: Make a plan

Don’t just set a goal, map it out. Don’t just say I’m going to take the next six months to get in shape. Instead plan out exactly how you are going to accomplish this task. Schedule appoints before hand to go to the gym or with a personal trainer. Find a workout plan online and mark it down on your calendar. If your goal is to eat healthy, start meal planning or if you want to spend more hours on your project to further your career then by yourself a planner and make a schedule.

I recommend you plan it all ahead before you set the deadline. Create steps. Start small and then slowly increase. When you have a clear path in mind trust me, you’ll find it much easier to stick to that routine than if you just try to wing it. Which leads me to step 3.

3: Get a routine going

Structure and organization is important and consistency is key. One of the ways to remain consistent is to get yourself a daily routine. Go to bed and wake up at the same, try to eat each meal within the same time frame. You may not be the type of person who likes predictability but trust me. I went through a faze in life where I simply lived day to day. It left me overwhelmed and stressed out all the time.

Once you get a routine, you’ll find the predictability (although maybe boring) leaves you with a sense that you’re in control and you know what’s going on. Stress tends to lead to discouragement which leads you to abandoning those goals. The more stress you eliminate the more likely you are to stick to your plans.

4: Find a partner

Sometimes you just need someone to give you a push. Sometimes you get lonely and need someone to make the journey with you. I recommend you do one of two things.

A) Find someone with a similar goal and make the journey together

And/Or

B) Find someone who already accomplished a similar goal and have them routinely check up on you.

When searching for someone though, remember to find someone who is encouraging and yet honest. Someone who won’t let you slack but who also understands that you are human. Having more than one person can also be good, that way you’re all sharing the load.

5: Keep a log

Every time you make progress or each time you felt like you slacked off, write it down. You can do this daily, weekly, or monthly depending on what sort of goal you set and what the time frame is. But writing it down will help you not only find motivation in times of doubt, it will also help you keep track on what is going, where your short comings are, and where your best strengths are. It can also be helpful for your partners to be able to review what’s going on.

6: Set an hour aside to be internet free

In this day in age everything seems to be on our phones. As convenient as it is, the internet is a distraction. Try putting your phone in another room for one hour to focus on other things. Read a book or take a walk and listen to nature. This will help you clear your mind which will alleviate stress which will again help you regain your motivation.

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Some days your just not going to feel like you have it in you. Pushing past that feeling even though it feels like its reality is important. Don’t give yourself excuses. Think about the future. Think how you’re going to feel when you finally achieve your goal. Make a plan, stick to it, and go out there and get what you want.

Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts

Winston Churchill

When Living With a Writer

By a Writer

Ah, writers. What strange creatures we are.

Let’s be honest, almost every occupation has it’s quirks and with those quirks comes pros and cons. Writers are no exception.

If you are not a writer, then you may look at someone who is and be a little daunted. Or maybe you are currently living with one and can’t seem to understand why they still haven’t taken out the trash even though you asked five times.

Worry no more. As a writer, I am going to let you in on how some of our minds work. I’ll give you some tips on how to cope with some of our antics, but at the same time, know that a relationship is a two way street. It can’t just be you putting in all the work. For this, I’ll also include a few things we writers can do to help as well.

1: Sometimes we forget things… a lot.

It’s not that we don’t care. Most times, we really do care. But our minds tend to be working a hundred mile an hour constantly. This happens because we are constantly reaching for new or creative ideas to advance our stories or build our worlds. We become solely invested in our own imagination that at times, things will slip.

What you can do: be patient. And honestly, a friendly reminder every now and then wouldn’t hurt.

What we can do: Slow down. Also, learn to carry a pen and pad around (or some other writing device) and WRITE THINGS DOWN! You may think you’ll remember on your own, but trust me, you’ll see one picture on the internet and suddenly find yourself involved in building an entirely new planet and then before you know it, your loved one is stuck washing the dishes by themselves. Again.

2: We get agitated by criticism (yeah, we do).

It is said that if you’re a writer, you need to have a very thick skins. This is true. Does that mean we always have thick skins? No.

I mentioned this in one of my previous posts The Jigsaw Heart (https://thearcaneauthor.blog/2019/01/16/the-jigsaw-heart/) . A writer’s work is sacred. Sometimes laced with our own personal feelings, struggles, and pain. Criticism can feel like a personal attack.

What you can do: Be kind, but honest. Think about things you’ve created. Think how you would want people to respond. Always be truthful, but you don’t need to be savage. Also make sure you’re giving constructive criticism, not just trying to pick apart their work for the sake of picking it apart.

What we can do: Stop being so sensitive. Not everyone is trying to bring you down or change who you are. Most people don’t understand how invested you are in your work, so give them a break. Besides, they’re trying to help. Pay attention to what they’re saying, it may just be the advice you need.

3: We can be terrible with our time

Writers who take their career seriously may spend every bit of their spare time locked up in their little spaces and typing away. This can frustrate some of their friends and family because as much as they want you to be successful, they always would like to see what your face looks like when it doesn’t have a screen in front of it.

What you can do: Schedules are useful. If you want to spend time with your writer spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, friend, etc, then you might need to actually schedule time for this. Remind your writer that they need to take a break. It’s good for them and it’s good for you.

What we can do: We can also use a schedule. We need to step away. Take a break. Get out of our own heads. Set time aside to spend with those we love. Go for a hike. Ride a bike. Get coffee with your friends. You’ll feel refreshed coming back into your project and may even find it will help you work better.

Just keep in mind, writers are human to (even though we don’t always act like it). It’s much like having any career really. We invest a lot into what we do. Just be understanding of that and at the same time, don’t be afraid to give us a little shove in the right direction. And writers, don’t get mad when they do it.

Writing is life, but life isn’t writing. Remember that and go spend some time with the people who care about you. You’ll thank me later.

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A writer is someone for whom writing is more difficult than it is for other people

Thomas Mann