Six Ways To Actually Accomplish Your Goals When You Just Don’t Have the Motivation

Personal goals are important and should be practiced more than just at the beginning of the year. But let’s be honest, like every New Years resolution we all have trouble achieving accomplishment.

1: Keep your goals simple and realistic

The problem many people have is that they are overachievers. You feel a spurt of inspiration and you feel like you can climb Everest, pay off your student loans, raise a family, start a law firm, and break the record for the how many push-ups one can do- all in one day.

The way I see it is that flow of inspiration you feel now, that’s not for you to use in one day. It might be all the inspiration you get until you accomplish your goal, so it has to last you however long that might take. Don’t waste it all by giving yourself a thousand things you want to do, instead, make one or two goals every six months and keep them simple. Whether it’s that you’re going to run an extra mile every day or work a little harder on a project, it’s important you know your limits.

2: Make a plan

Don’t just set a goal, map it out. Don’t just say I’m going to take the next six months to get in shape. Instead plan out exactly how you are going to accomplish this task. Schedule appoints before hand to go to the gym or with a personal trainer. Find a workout plan online and mark it down on your calendar. If your goal is to eat healthy, start meal planning or if you want to spend more hours on your project to further your career then by yourself a planner and make a schedule.

I recommend you plan it all ahead before you set the deadline. Create steps. Start small and then slowly increase. When you have a clear path in mind trust me, you’ll find it much easier to stick to that routine than if you just try to wing it. Which leads me to step 3.

3: Get a routine going

Structure and organization is important and consistency is key. One of the ways to remain consistent is to get yourself a daily routine. Go to bed and wake up at the same, try to eat each meal within the same time frame. You may not be the type of person who likes predictability but trust me. I went through a faze in life where I simply lived day to day. It left me overwhelmed and stressed out all the time.

Once you get a routine, you’ll find the predictability (although maybe boring) leaves you with a sense that you’re in control and you know what’s going on. Stress tends to lead to discouragement which leads you to abandoning those goals. The more stress you eliminate the more likely you are to stick to your plans.

4: Find a partner

Sometimes you just need someone to give you a push. Sometimes you get lonely and need someone to make the journey with you. I recommend you do one of two things.

A) Find someone with a similar goal and make the journey together

And/Or

B) Find someone who already accomplished a similar goal and have them routinely check up on you.

When searching for someone though, remember to find someone who is encouraging and yet honest. Someone who won’t let you slack but who also understands that you are human. Having more than one person can also be good, that way you’re all sharing the load.

5: Keep a log

Every time you make progress or each time you felt like you slacked off, write it down. You can do this daily, weekly, or monthly depending on what sort of goal you set and what the time frame is. But writing it down will help you not only find motivation in times of doubt, it will also help you keep track on what is going, where your short comings are, and where your best strengths are. It can also be helpful for your partners to be able to review what’s going on.

6: Set an hour aside to be internet free

In this day in age everything seems to be on our phones. As convenient as it is, the internet is a distraction. Try putting your phone in another room for one hour to focus on other things. Read a book or take a walk and listen to nature. This will help you clear your mind which will alleviate stress which will again help you regain your motivation.

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Some days your just not going to feel like you have it in you. Pushing past that feeling even though it feels like its reality is important. Don’t give yourself excuses. Think about the future. Think how you’re going to feel when you finally achieve your goal. Make a plan, stick to it, and go out there and get what you want.

Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts

Winston Churchill

Telling Tale

The Difference Between A Storyteller and a Novelist

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I’m actually surprised by how many people don’t know the difference between telling a story and writing a novel.

Big difference.

Not to say either one is bad. Because both have their advantages and disadvantages depending on the circumstances. But they are distinctively different.

Storyteller: People with this gift tend to writing awesome short stories. They are more focused on the point, getting right to the nitty-gritty. They don’t tend to be very in depth though. You may find the characters interesting, however, you probably won’t feel overly attached.

Novelist: These people tend to fill their stories with a lot of prose and subtlety. You get a deeper, lengthier story. However, try to get a novelist to write something under 50,000 words and you might as well ask a fish to join a 5K.

I find I tend to lean more to a novelist. When writing fiction, I tend to be more abstract and thus my stories tend to be more complex. However, as I’m trying to write a few short stories, I’m struggling to keep things short and sweet.

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Keep in mind when you’re writing a novel the rules of “showing vs. telling”. It’s one of the first things you’ll learn about in the writing world. Novelist tend to show things through emotion, prose, and action, while storytellers lean more to the telling side (hence storytellers). Meaning, instead of saying “Susan kicked the door shut, the harsh slam rattling the entire house” a storyteller would simply say “Susan was angry“. Both have a time and place.

If you’re a storyteller, you have the advantage of seeing things exactly the way they are. You probably don’t bore people with a lot of poetic displays or take too long describing a thing. You give us the facts. That’s great. Sometimes I like that. If you’re a novelist, you see things in different lights, through different lenses, and incorporate what is seen through all the senses. Both are needed and both are beautiful.

It’s important to know where you strengths lie. It’s not to say a novelist can’t become a storyteller or vice versa, but it just means you may run into a few struggles along the way. Regardless, it’s your style and so it’s your story.

It’s up to you to decide how we get to see it.

Storytellers don’t show, they tell. I’m sticking with that


Ashly Lorenzana

Create a world in front of your readers where they can taste, smell, touch, hear, see, and move. Or else they are likely going to move on to another book


Pawan Mishra