The Lovely Few And the Unhappy Others

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So here’s a bit of wisdom you can apply, not just in writing, but in every aspect of your life.

Don’t expect to make everyone happy. You won’t. You can’t. And frankly, it’s not worth the price you have to pay to even try. In the end EVERYONE ends up miserable or unsatisfied.

And I’m not telling you this from the point of view of somebody who has successfully practiced this principle. This is probably one of the hardest lessons I’m struggling to learn right now.

Hear me out though and I’ll tell you from experience when you try to juggle everyone’s wants and needs you have to do one of two things.

A: Deprive everyone of what they want

or

B: Give everybody only a very little bit of what they want and hope it will be enough

I tried this in writing. I tried writing things I thought my associates would like but also a general audience would enjoy and it did not go well. I was unhappy, my friends were unhappy, and if I tried to publish that thing I knew the readers would be unhappy. The characters didn’t fit, the plot twists were sporadic, and worst of all was the constant flip-flop of the genre itself.

Needless to say, I have burned that script. And the pen I wrote it with. Trust me, it was for the best.

Sometimes it’s feasible. It’s a rarity but sometimes there is these precious moments when all around everyone is satisfied. More times than not, you will have to make some people unhappy and that’s okay. Your purpose on this planet is not to please everyone.

Unfortunately this means you have to choose. And that’s the part nobody likes. It’s like watching the Good Son. Seems like we’re all in Susan’s boat sometimes, trying to decide if we save Henry or Mark because we’re not going to be able to pull them both up.

Maybe not quite as extreme, but you get the idea.

Don’t get personal

There will be time you will feel obligated to put aside what you think is best and do what something that someone else wants you to do. There is a time and place for that, but there is also a time and place when you need to reassert that you are the captain now. This is especially true of people who aren’t in the profession and yet try to tell you how to do your job anyway.

Actually, in general, it’s best to avoid those kinds of people. Unless they are related, in which, smile and nod and take nothing they say to heart.

Get your priorities straight

Whatever you’re doing, whether it’s writing, art, a home project etc, know what it is you’re trying to accomplish. Map it out. If someone tries to get you to deviate from that plan, consider whether the plan is good and then proceed as normal. Anybody you seek advise from should be there to help you achieve your goals (as long as they’re good goals) and not force you to reconstruct your entire plot to suit their personal preferences.

Remember that you will be the one to endure the consequences, not them

People might try to pressure you. Stand your ground. This is your life and your work, not theirs. Ultimately it is you who will have to make the decisions and take responsibility for them, so it’s really not fair when these people try to live out their own desires through you. I will say this again; you are not obligated to wreck your dreams for them.

Sometimes you’re better off not even opening the door

You might be tempted to seek approval from certain people, but look, you are only human. Don’t make promises you can’t keep, don’t agree to anything you don’t want to do, and certainly do not overload yourself with other people’s ideas, especially when they suppress your own. If you have to not bring up the topic in front of these people then so be it. Avoid the conversation if you can and if you can’t, be nice, but let them know where you stand on the issue. Or distract them with videos of cute dogs, that has actually worked for me a few times.

There is not easy solution to this problem. If you find one, let me know. You don’t have destroy your relationships with people, but you do have to be strong and remain true to yourself. No, not everyone is going to like your work. Not everyone will be happy with it. That doesn’t always mean they’re terrible people or that your work sucks. It just means we’re all human beings with our own minds and opinions.

If you’re a writer, then do this; accept that fact that some people will hate your novel, some people will love it, and some people will not care at all about it. But please, I beg you, don’t try to write a story everyone will love, you are more like to come out with something everyone will hate instead. Unless your goal is to get people to collectively agree on something (in which case, good on you I guess), then you are better off selecting your audience and aim to hit their wants and needs. If you come out with a product that’s naturally so good other people outside the target love it as well, then that’s great. More then likely however you won’t be getting the Harry Potter fans if you’re writing the next Gone With the Wind. You see what I mean?

To break it down simply; you do you and if you find a better way of doing it, then do that. Figure out who you need to please and who you are able to please, and work from there. As simple as it sounds, it’s a lot harder in practice. But eventually you will find the balance in it.

And the moment I do, I will let you know.

More Fun With Google Translate

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I love the Latin language. But apparently it doesn’t love me…

Here I took one of my more popular posts (see. https://thearcaneauthor.blog/2019/04/17/sail-on-dear-captain/) and I ran it through Google Translate for fun. The result was not disappointing. Maybe it even helped.

Sail On, Dear Captain- As told by Google Translate:

I’m a writer.
To repeat this line in the morning, again and again, working up to, to turn thoughts into words late at night when my brain wants to go to sleep or early in the morning when you want to jump on the social media or days off with my I want to binge watching a show. A few days later in which he had been writing in the pages of a garment, And the people saw them often and o’er again.

What am I doing?

I do not know what I’m doing half of the time. He was a kid who loves playing, reading the books diameter pirate treasure Island and pretended it was my ship in a cardboard box daydreaming day after day, one would Boat_Pirate_Galleon.cfg my own. I feel like I am still on adult in the lifeboat until the day daydreaming and high winds. Fearing the port.

What is the point?

Oh that I were never to put off the work of war. If you ask me the faith of my fathers, he wanted to rise again, in order that you wish to deal with it.

What if I’m really not good?

And more than anyone fail to see. Ships are tall and strong. The plow through the waves and storms. Do not fear the winds. Tells the stories scars are likely to show pride. And it is in these times to think maybe it’s not the sea, maybe it’s just my boat. Maybe I’m not cut power to those that exist on the face of the deep.

What if I, Master, we are perishing?

Small Part of the wreckage, he could not see out of the other little boats also were damaged beyond repair. Indeed, some of the sea is never sail again. And if I can not help but wonder this is my fate. So the port at anchor fastened lowered and sails.

If you feel the fire?

Not a great thing in the knowledge that My chosen one or the ship. But he might not seem too much the boat is a boat. And an aimless boat in the harbor is used for the purpose of delay, but from its high. And the sea to move to me, that’s what my ship.

This, of course it is not my chart will in them. The cruelty of the sea, to the health of a herd of but I did not. Whatever lies that I thought a storm or sails and sail.

But as captain